DoYouReallyKnowKyleJamesFoote.com
Kyle James Foote was born on April 15, 1971, He is the current worship leader at Parkside Covenant Church in Clifton Park, NY and works part-time at a local veterinary hospital in Colonie, NY. Kyle Foote abandoned his 3rd wife in July of 2011 and filed for divorce soon after without cause or warning. Kyle Foote did the exact same thing to wife #1 and possibly wife #2. Kyle Foote has left a trail of broken relationships and damaged lives in his selfish quest. He doesn't care how deeply his choices and actions have hurt the people he once claimed to love as long as he's happy and ultimately gets what he wants. Sooner or later this man throws every relationship away and moves on to use another woman to continue his pattern of destruction and heartbreak. His wife Allyson was devastated and shocked by his drastic choice to divorce her. In the weeks proceeding his final abandonment Kyle Foote sent many letters testifying to what a great wife he had and how much he loved her. Anyone reading those letters or texts would have thought he was married to wife of the year. Kyle never gave a single indication he was unhappy in his marriage in fact it was the complete opposite. Kyle James Foote actually spent the weeks before he left promising his wife he would never give up on their marriage and apologizing for being a "terrible husband" to her. He admitted he had damaged their marriage by HIS abandonment and poor treatment of his wife and step-son. Allyson always forgave her husband and Kyle vowed over and over to change and promised it would never happen again. Allyson believed him and its taken years to face who she was really married to. The reality was that Kyle was setting his wife up to believe their marriage was secure so he could pull the rug out from under her on the worst day of her life. Their marriage, like most of us certainly had its issues and although Kyle made Allyson feel like she was his best friend and confidant Allyson herself says she wasn't a perfect wife. "But I loved my husband very much, I've always been faithful and loyal to him and above all was100% committed to our marriage and making my husband happy." Unfortunately Kyle James Foote wasn't committed to anything but his freedom and throwing his wife under the bus with horrible lies that would destroy most woman. Kyle blindsided his wife with his divorce petition in the cruelest most in humane way possible as you will see. Allyson begged her husband to come home and get counseling. She made it clear she would do whatever it took to save their marriage and to fix whatever issue/s Kyle had. Kyle refused! It's been 2 years and Allyson still has no idea why her husband left her or why he felt his only path or option was divorce. There have been rumors Kyle Foote was unfaithful but there is no proof of this and he's denied it. It's the last thing Allyson wants to believe but he's done it before and she doesn't know what else could cause such a drastic change in personality and behavior. Allyson Foote told her husband if he wanted to divorce her that it was his choice but that she would not be a part of it. Allyson legally contested the divorce and tried to fight it as long as she possibly could. She even wrote a letter to the judge telling her she didn't want this divorce and that her heart was to reconcile with her husband. Allyson Foote didn't sign a single legal paper even though it meant she would automatically loose by default. She will never regret fighting against the divorce and for her husband even though the cost to her has been great. Ultimately Kyle Foote was determined to break his marriage vows and the law was on his side. Allyson says she would have forgiven her husband anything to see their marriage restored and she believes with God ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE. But Kyle Foote wouldn't even talk to her or respond to her repeated heartfelt pleas for answers or compassion. The laws of our land sadly place little value on marriage so Kyle James Foote was eventually successful in divorcing his 3rd wife in 2012 just as he had his 1st and possibly 2nd. Allyson Foote truly loved and trusted her husband with all her heart, his betrayal has broken her. She cannot help but wonder if the entire marriage was a lie or if Kyle ever truly loved her. Allyson's family gave Kyle thousands of dollars in gifts and loans along with months of free rent so its hard not to question if that was all he wanted from this family who has shown him nothing but love and acceptance. One of the most destructive parts of this is that Kyle James was allowed to continue in his position as the full time paid worship leader at Parkside Covenant Church. The majority of those involved expected the pastor to offer the couple marital counseling, they expected he'd pray and believe for the restoration of this marriage. We certainly expected Paul McCart, Parksides Senior Pastor would ask his paid staff member to step down from leadership until Kyle got his family and life in order (1 Timothy 3:4). None of these things happened. In fact Pastor Paul McCart who was also one of Kyle's best friends actually gave or loaned him the money to retain his divorce attorney. Kyle Foote never spoke to his wife again once this so called "pastor" involved himself in their marriage. Instead this pastor wrote a shocking letter telling Allyson Foote that if she would leave New York and agree to Kyle's demands the church would pay to move her and her son 3000 miles back to where her family lived. (Kyle had already made this promise to his wife in writing and through texts many times but now it was being used as a manipulation for these 2 men to get their way and hide what was really going on.) Pastor McCart also offered to reinstate the health insurance Kyle had canceled behind his wife's back several weeks prior to his divorce filing. The offer/blackmail was very hard to say no to because Allyson's health is extremely fragile and she was in the middle of receiving medical treatment and scheduled for surgery when her husband cancelled her health insurance and filed for a divorce. In hindsight its clear the health insurance was canceled so Kyle could use it as a bargaining tool to get his way. He also gave notice on their home behind Allyson's back for the same reason. Kyle texted his wife, "she should be "grateful" that he didn't just throw her and her things out on the street and falsely claim she'd abandoned them." Even after everything Kyle has done it's still hard for Allyson and her family to believe the man she loved and trusted so deeply could be capable of such cruelty and deception. Allyson and her family saw the pastors "offer" as blackmail and she refused to give in to it no matter what the cost. In his letter pastor Paul McCart also admitted he was the one who had "recommended" Kyle Foote file for a legal separation and eventual divorce. What kind of Christian pastor does that? What kind of denomination would allow it to happen in the first place? (We have personally read these 2 letters from pastor Paul McCart and they prove beyond any doubt that Allyson is speaking the truth.) When Allyson refused to sign the legal separation papers her husband had divorce papers drawn up instead. Kyle made the unbearably cruel decision to serve these papers to his wife on the very same day her beloved Dad passed away. Allyson was served just before she got on the plane to go see her Dad who'd been in an accident the previous night. Unknown to Allyson was the tragic fact that her Dad had already gone to be with Lord. Allyson's family didn't want her and her son to fly across the country carrying that horrible weight plus they wanted to give them the news in person so they could receive the support of their family. Kyle James Foote knew his father-in-law had died when he choose to serve his wife divorce papers. His sister-in-law called and told him the news hoping he'd show his wife a little compassion. Unfortunately Kyle had hardened his heart to the point he would not listen to anyone other then those who were supporting him in his cruel and in humane actions. Even his father-in-laws death couldn't soften his heart or cause him to show his own wife basic human decency. Needless to say those were very dark days, weeks and months for Allyson and her family. Allyson says she wouldn't wish the hell Kyle put her through on her worst enemy. "No one deserves to be treated so cruelly." What horrible thing had Allyson done to be shown such inhumane treatment? Thats the craziest part about all this. Allyson Foote has literally not been accused of a single thing and Kyle has even written a letter stating that "none of this was her fault." He went even further to say, "He did not blame her at all." To this day Allyson has not been given a single reason why Kyle turned on her so suddenly or why he would throw his marriage away without a single attempt to fix what was broken. The not knowing, the not having even a single answer has felt like torture to Allyson.
When Allyson agreed to move to NY 5 years ago so her husband could fulfill his lifelong dream of being a full time worship leader she had no idea Parkside Covenant Church did not consider divorce a disqualification from Christian leadership. She didn't know this church didn't take God's word literally or that she would be treated as an outsider. Pastor Paul McCart condoned and justified Kyle's actions and made it possible for him to excuse his horrific behavior towards his wife and others. Allyson has served the Lord all her life and she comes from generations of pastors and evangelists. Both her sisters senior pastor churches with their husbands and her brother is also a senior pastor of a large church. She's seen the very best and the very worst of Christian leadership but nothing to equal what was allowed to happen at Parkside Covenant Church. Maybe Allyson was a bit naive but she understandably assumed all Christians and all Pastors viewed the abandonment of ones family as unacceptable behavior in a Christian leader. Especially when it was Kyle's 3rd failed marriage. Divorce is the one thing God says He HATES (Malachi 2:16) and for a Christian the only out is adultery. How could any Christian pastor justify his worship leaders 3rd divorce? Especially as there had been no adultery... at least not on Allyson's part. There were absolutely no biblical grounds for a divorce. Next to being blindsided by the divorce the fact that Kyle Foote was enabled in his cruelty towards his own wife has shocked everyone who hears the full and true story. Especially after they view the indisputable proof, some of which is now public record. Allyson lost her home, her husband and her Dad on the very same day and the pain of those losses nearly destroyed her. Kyle also threatened to keep everything Allyson owned on top of everything else he'd already done. It's hard not to believe Kyle was purposely trying to break his wife down by his over the top cruelty and broken promises. 98% of the property in the marital home was bought or given to Allyson before their marriage. Kyle only brought clothes and music equipment into their marriage, everything else belonged to and was provided for by Allyson and her family. Unbelievably Kyle James Foote broke the news he was breaking his promise to return Allyson's property and much loved dog just a few minutes before the memorial service for his father-in-law was to begin. Allyson had just left her Dad's viewing when she got the text Kyle was going to break yet another promise. When Allyson reacted to the very real possibility of loosing her life's possessions Kyle mocked her and called her crazy. Kyle has called all 3 of his ex-wives crazy and others who've dared to speak out against him. Allyson had left her home with the clothes on her back and whatever she could hurriedly pack in the hours before she left NY to rush to her Dad's bedside. Before she left, just minutes before he had her served the divorce papers Kyle texted his wife "not to worry about a thing, he said that he would take care of everything." He promised in texts and emails that he would make sure Allyson got back what belonged to her. Instead Kyle kept her belongings hostage and made the first weeks and months of her fathers death a living unbearable nightmare for the entire family. Kyle showed no respect for this grieving family and he took advantage of his father-in-laws death for his own personal gain. Allyson is a very strong woman who has survived several tragedies throughout her life including a brutal rape and assault in 1996 that nearly cost her her life. She's survived false allegations and imprisonment. But what Kyle Foote has done is worse than anything she'd suffered previously because he was the one man she trusted above all others. Allyson survived those tragedies by holding on to the Lord and she will do it again. God has given her a peace that passes all understanding but the losses have been so overwhelming she sometimes can't see a future because the pain is so excruciating it almost hurts to even breath somedays. It was Kyle's choice to divorce his 3rd wife but Allyson still carries the title and shame of divorcee. It was Kyle who chose to walk away from the godly values he once believed in but his wife still has to carry the embarrassment of people knowing she's divorced and the judgments they will make because of it. Even if Allyson could somehow heal enough to trust again she fears the stigma would be too much for another man to handle. Especially now that Kyle has continued his campaign to destroy her by twisting and using details as well as outright lying about her past in a failed effort to discredit and break her down even more. Kyle has taken this horribly brutal incident that traumatized his wife over 17 years ago and forced her to relive it in some sick effort to excuse and/or hide what he's done and how he's done it. Presently Kyle Foote has been seen around town doing just fine and publicly hugging and caressing an older woman who was "all over him". He obviously hasn't missed a step in beginning or continuing his search for wife #4. It's worth mentioning that Kyle told his sister-in-law he was too "broken" to be in a romantic relationship again. He also falsely claimed he was fired from his job at Parkside church. But then again he also promised to call Allyson and give her the answers she deserves and has begged for. It's 2 years later and she's still waiting for Kyle to keep just 1 of the many promises he made to her. Allyson is still suffering from Kyle's betrayal and cruelty and she struggles with feeling rejected and not even knowing why. She is constantly haunted by the many questions she has no answers to. Kyle Foote tossed aside his 3rd wife in almost the identical way he did his first wife and yet no one close to him will even accept the truth let alone encourage him to do the right thing and stop using woman and relationships for his own selfish gain. Maybe that's why Kyle keeps repeating the same mistakes over and over and over in almost the exact same way. Maybe his families enablement is why he cannot sustain a marriage for longer than 4 years. Kyle was divorced from each of his 3 wives after just 4 years of marriage! This is public record. His ex best friend who got Kyle the job at Parkside Covenant Church no longer speaks to him and holds Kyle responsible for nearly destroying his life. Allyson wasn't Kyle Foote's first victim and she won't be his last.
Allyson has decided to share her story in the hope that whoever is reading this will wait to judge someone whose been divorced until they know ALL the facts. "My husband took away my choice in this and he's forced the ugly title of divorcee on me even though I never wanted it and fought with everything I had to keep it from happening. I begged God to put my marriage back together but Kyle has free will and he chose to dishonor me, his marriage covenant and the God he claims to serve by choosing to divorce me instead of doing what is right and just in God's sight. I'm afraid if I don't speak up he's going to do to another woman what he's done to me. I cannot allow the pain I've had to endure to happen to anyone else. All I have is the truth and I intend to speak it as loudly and for as long as I can. This is my true story and I have every right to tell it."
Kyle James Foote is still leading worship at Parkside Covenant Church and we have to wonder how he can lead God's people in songs about obedience while his actions have been so clearly disobedient. Has he no shame at all? Allyson wants to believe there is still hope for her marriage but how could she ever trust this man again? Even if he wanted to reconcile with her (or had a an ounce of regret over his behavior) how could she ever forget the awful things he's done and said to and about her? Kyle broke the most important promise of all and he did it without missing a step or with any thought to who he would hurt. Allyson says; "I pray for my husband everyday and ask God to help me forgive him. I hate what Kyle has done to me and I'm so disappointed that he allowed outside influences to come between us. I'm heartbroken that the wonderful man I married has all but disappeared and I'm tortured not knowing what if anything about our marriage was real. I don't know what to believe anymore and my ability to trust has been shattered. Kyle didn't just take away my present he took away my future as well. Yes, I know I must forgive, and I will, but it's one of the hardest things I've ever done." Kyle Foote became everything he said he'd never be. He's done everything he promised he'd never do. He broke a sacred covenant and the promise he made to both his wife and his God.
Is it too late for Kyle and Allyson? If Kyle wanted to reconcile and Allyson was willing to forgive would God want her to go back? Would He ask her to go back? Or is it time Allyson moves on without her husband? Is Allyson free to move on without God's judgement? Will Kyle be committing adultery if he remarries? Will Kyle ever have the courage and backbone to sincerely apologize for all the damage he's caused? Will we ever know the true story behind why he did what he did? These are just a few of the questions our website hopes to answer.
Allyson says; "I've made enough mistakes to know when you don't do it God's way your setting yourself up for pain and failure so I want to do it God's way this time. I want to be in God's perfect will but sometimes it's hard to know what that is. Should I keep praying for my husband or is it time to finally let him go? I never broke my vows to him and they still mean so much to me. You can't turn off "true" love like you would a light and I don't know how to let go or say goodbye. A piece of paper saying were divorced means nothing. Not to me and certainly not to the God I serve. That is my belief anyway and it used to be Kyle's too. I hate what my husband has done and I think he's a coward for allowing someone else to speak for him instead of facing and answering to those he's hurt. God has been so faithful to me but the losses I've suffered have taken a great toll physically, mentally and spiritually. I will never get back the trust my husband stole from me. Everything I used to believe in is just gone. He took away what mattered most. Yes, God has given me incredible peace in the midst of all this and I will continue to praise Him no matter what comes. I know God will never leave me and that His faithfulness is forever. But how do I ever trust again? How does one open their heart when the person they loved and trusted most in all this world has killed all trust. I don't know who my husband is anymore but I can't help missing the man I thought I'd married. I miss my best friend, at least I thought he was. I can't help wondering if he is going to get away with what he's done to me and others. I don't wish bad on Kyle or anyone else but I can't deny I want him to answer to God for his actions. Why am I having to pay such a steep price for a divorce I never, ever wanted? Kyle gave up on our marriage but I never would have. I took my marriage vows seriously and I intended to honor them till the day I died. I truly loved my husband with everything I had and I'll never get over the heartache of his betrayal. Not ever! Kyle took away my choice and that makes me angry but I'm mostly angry at myself for putting so much faith and trust in him. I'm on a quest for answers but I know It's unlikely I'll ever get them. How do I finally let go of the man I vowed to love forever? How do I move on after so much pain and loss??? How do I forgive the unforgivable?
Please go to www.doyoureallyknowkylejamesfoote.com for the full story and to keep updated on all the latest. The website has all the emails, texts and letters to prove Allyson is speaking the truth.[[Category:]]
